Isolation
Recently I've been feeling especially isolated. I'm essentially stranded at our house (or at least within reasonable walking distance) with the 2 kids all day. Again, I'm reminded of how different the lifestyle is here compared to Chicago. There, I'd be able to walk to meet up with friends or go to the grocery. Here, life just doesn't function without a car. I'm thankful for the car we do have and that our home is comfortable and a good place to be with my children. I partially blame myself for my isolation because I haven't reached out to anyone about it. But I also feel like there's a breakdown of what our community should look like because most people here don't even think about someone not having (or having access to) a car. Not that having another car would make life perfect, but it sure would help break the monotony and help me and the kiddos get to spend more time with other people. I guess it's my sinful pride that keeps me from asking people to come to us. I don't want to be the needy, overdramatic, whiny stay at home mom that expects people to drop all that they've got going on to come rescue me from loneliness and seclusion. That said, I am needy. And overdramatic. And sometimes whiny about it. I'm not sure how to end this, so, The End.
know exactly what you mean sis. spent many years in the same situation with matt & gretchen. it's a lonely world. come to think of it... I'm right back in it, being w/out a car & stuck home alone 90% of the time. just know you're not alone. xoxo
ReplyDeleteI hear ya Claire, some thing here (carless). Once people started realizing it though, some have offered me their cars when they go places if they aren't using them for a few days which has been really nice (anyone you know travel a alot?) For instance a friend just traveled, I used her car, and then used it to pick her and her daughter up from the airport as the trade off :). I try to remain positive and thank the Lord for what we do have every day...when I start listing it, or when I remember where we were at when we were in chicago (super poor...never able to own a home) I am much more thankful and content. It's a season we are in. Also, just think, less hassel having to load and unload 2 kiddos to go places, you're not obligated because you have no car! ha. And I digress....just wanted to let you know you're not alone!
ReplyDeleteThose first few months with a newborn and a toddler are naturally isolating I think :( Chicago or not, it's very difficult to get everybody out the door. Luckily you have a backyard and beautiful weather! Let people over and kindly ask if they'd be up to hanging out while you do dishes. Women are generally intuitive to know that if they're hanging out with you while you do chores - they will pitch in! Even set up a weekly stop by. Offer prayer as a thank you for their time and they'll feel filled up even though they may be pouring out on you. It's a great opportunity to allow others with the love language of service to love on you. Love you, miss you. And wish we could meet up for coffee.
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